I can think of no greater element that has brought about the casualty of a church planter than forgetting that he is a husband.
In a 1982 Frank and Ernest comic strip, Bob Thaves wrote about Fred Astaire: “Sure he was great, but don’t forget that Ginger Rogers did everything he did, backwards and in high heels.” As a planter, never forget that your wife is taking every step that you’re taking. She is praying with you, visiting with you, attending services with you, she is supporting you and every step you take to be successful as a planter. She is being a wife, mother, and homemaker, performing all of the duties required of those roles.
You as the pastor, are receiv- ing the accolades, compliments, and encouragement of the church and community while your wife is simply being your support system without any recognition.
Even though your wife is giving her time faithfully, you as her husband need to give her your time. Your acknowledgment of her faithful service is essential.
As a husband you can become so busy doing ministry you forget you have the responsibility of allowing your wife to come alongside and grow with you. As Amos 3:3 wisely asks us: “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” In Mark 3:25 we are told, “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” As the church grows, the two of you should grow together in leadership, spirituality, and enthusiasm for the work. Nothing could be more complementary to your ministry than unity in these areas. Blessings come, as we are obedient in these places of responsibility.